Experiences
You ever hear the statement, "Happiness is a warm puppy"?
Well, horror and disgust is a sixty-five-year-old man looking you up and down, winking at you, and asking you if you are married.
Well, horror and disgust is a sixty-five-year-old man looking you up and down, winking at you, and asking you if you are married.
4 Comments:
At 3:38 PM,
Anonymous said…
Well you could always be the next Anna Nicole Smith. =o) ~G
At 6:45 PM,
Reagan said…
The point is not that he was sixty-five. I would have been just as revolted if he had been my age, or a teenager.
The point is that I felt he crosssed the line between "casual flirting" and a sexual come-on. Every indication of body language that he gave me showed that he was coming on to me. The fact that he looked me up and down and winked (WINKED!)at me, then asked me if I was married, showed that he wasn't just interested in my life. That's what upset me.
I'll say this. There are a lot of signals I don't pick up that maybe I should. In fact, I am pretty thick when it comes to such things. But when I do pick up signals, I think they are legitamate. And I feel I have pretty good intuition when it comes to these things.
I will also say that ANY woman should follow their gut when it comes to such things. If they feel that someone is behaving inappropriately, then that person probably is. To second-guess oneself in that situation may have very tragic results.
I'm not condemning flirting in general. I believe people should try to get to know one another. But there are boundaries, and there is a fine line between what one calls "casual flirting" and what another calls inappropriate. A wise man will discern which one is which and act accordingly.
I hope that you won't be flirting with anyone other than your wife when you are sixty-five. But here's one rule for any male: Don't look at anyone in a way that you wouldn't want your mom/girlfriend/wife to be looked at by a man who isn't married to her.
There's my explanation. Sorry if you don't like it, but I never said that people have to agree with my viewpoints merely by reading my blog. Call me a prude, call me whatever. My point is that he crossed the line.
At 3:55 PM,
Reagan said…
Hmmm. A lot to think about, coming into the weekend. I won't be at the DNA conference this weekend (work, lack of funds, et al.), but I think that it would discuss this very issue. Maybe Misti or Brian or someone could fill me in on what they talk about.
As for casual flirting, I think that one is best off erring on the side of caution. I remember the one time that I out and out flirted with a guy. I won't go into details, but it turned into a big mess.
The moral? Don't play games with people's hearts. (to quote the Backstreet Boys) (Yes, I am as non-indie as they come.)
At 7:33 AM,
Reagan said…
The Fear Dance? I have done that before. I dance, and everyone is afraid. :-)
Seriously, though. I am impressed. You guys need to tell me about the session today.
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